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The art of living better lies in finding the right resources. I’ve recently come to this conclusion after years of believing I could help or “save” men who, in reality, didn’t want help or saving. That’s still an important goal, but if I kept focusing solely on those individuals, it would be like pouring water into a bottomless well. So, the idea remained: how can we offer practical tools to people who might not have easy access to personal development?
Together with my newest, slightly experimental resource—generative artificial intelligence—I began the search for “the seven universal resources for personal development and well-being,” ones that anyone can use, always and everywhere. I chose seven because it has a nice ring to it (days of the week, virtues, seas, you name it). But don’t let that limit you—feel free to add to the list. We believe in a “both-and” approach, not “either-or.” This isn’t science per se, which is why you won’t see extensive footnotes or citations here. This is just what I have for you now.
My quick-thinking partner and I have sifted through online sources on personal development, including the spiritual side, with a focus on practical application in daily life. These resources are immediately useful for anyone who can read and write. My partner weighed and filtered all this data, and I added a human touch—drawing from my experience as a coach, teacher, and writer.
The result is these seven key resources. I see this not as a finished product but as an encouraging starting point for a rewarding journey, one that’s open to everyone. For now, make the most of it!
- Self-Awareness
Self-awareness is the foundation of personal growth and transformation. It’s the ability to recognize and understand your own thoughts, emotions, and actions, which lays the groundwork for change. According to American psychologist Daniel Goleman, “Self-awareness is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence.” Without an awareness of your inner world, making choices aligned with your true self becomes challenging.
Developing self-awareness helps regulate emotions and understand deeper needs and motivations. It enables you to respond more consciously in stressful situations rather than acting automatically based on old patterns.
Tip: Start with 10 minutes a day of meditation or mindfulness. Close your eyes, focus on your breath, and observe your thoughts without judgment. This will help you gain insight into your mind and emotions. You could also keep a daily journal to track your thoughts and feelings.
- Self-Acceptance
Self-acceptance is the skill of embracing yourself, strengths and weaknesses included. It allows you to set the bar a bit lower and be kinder to yourself. As Brené Brown, an expert on vulnerability and shame, says, “You can’t fully love yourself without accepting your shadow sides.”
Accepting yourself creates room for personal growth and frees you from destructive self-criticism. Many people chase perfection, which only leads to stress and anxiety. Self-acceptance means you don’t need to be perfect to have worth, contributing to a healthier self-image and more resilience in tough times.
Tip: Write down three things you appreciate about yourself each day. This helps shift your focus from shortcomings to strengths. The next time you make a mistake, try to be consciously kind to yourself.
- Connection with Others
Human connection is a critical source of emotional and mental strength. Susan Pinker, author of The Village Effect, states, “Strong social bonds are as crucial to your health as nutrition and exercise.” People are social beings, and nurturing meaningful relationships can reduce stress, boost happiness, and even extend life.
Social support not only comforts in tough times but also celebrates successes and offers a listening ear. In an age where technology often creates physical distance, it’s more important than ever to foster genuine connection.
Tip: Reach out to a friend or family member you haven’t spoken to in a while. A simple call or message can make a big difference in strengthening your bond.
- Sense of Purpose
A sense of purpose gives direction and meaning to life. Viktor Frankl, a famous psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor, emphasized the importance of purpose in Man’s Search for Meaning: “Purpose is humanity’s primary drive.” People with a sense of purpose often feel more fulfilled and are more resilient in the face of challenges.
Purpose can come from various sources, such as work, relationships, spirituality, or a passion project. It enables us to view challenges as opportunities for growth rather than obstacles. Cultivating a deep sense of purpose contributes to lasting happiness.
Tip: Identify three things that give your life meaning. These could be big goals or small daily activities that bring you joy. Write them down and make them a priority in your life.
- Resilience
Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks and handle stressful situations. Psychologist Angela Duckworth, author of Grit, highlights the value of perseverance: “Grit is passion and perseverance for very long-term goals.” Building resilience helps us view obstacles not as endpoints but as opportunities to grow stronger.
Resilience doesn’t mean never failing; it’s about knowing how to keep going when things get tough. It’s a vital resource for maintaining mental and emotional well-being, especially in times of change and uncertainty.
Tip: Make a list of the challenging situations you’ve overcome. This helps you acknowledge your resilience and encourages you to face future challenges with confidence.
- Self-Discipline
Self-discipline allows you to work consistently and purposefully toward personal and professional goals. As James Clear, author of Atomic Habits, puts it: “Successful people do daily what others do only occasionally.” Self-discipline helps overcome procrastination and achieve long-term results.
It’s essential for building positive habits and breaking negative cycles. Self-discipline provides structure and direction, leading to a sense of control over your life. By taking small, daily steps, you can create meaningful change.
Tip: Choose one small habit you want to develop, like reading for 10 minutes daily or taking a walk. Set a reminder and stick with it for the next week, even if you don’t feel like it.
- Creative Expression
Creative expression is a powerful way to release emotions and explore yourself. As Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Big Magic, says, “Creativity is the relationship between a human being and the mysteries of inspiration.” Expressing yourself through art, music, writing, or other creative activities is a unique way to process thoughts and feelings.
Creative expression helps reduce stress and provides an outlet for emotions. It doesn’t have to be perfect or grand; even small, daily creative activities can lead to a sense of fulfillment and joy.
- Tip: Set aside 15 minutes today for a creative activity you enjoy, like drawing, writing, or making music. Let go of the pressure to create something “good”—the goal is to enjoy the process.
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